It’s almost been a week since Mother’s Day, and while I don’t often get to see my oldest grown child who lives states away, we do talk every day (mostly). My youngest grown child still lives at home, which is both a joy and a delight (mostly).
I raised them practically alone and they rank as my absolute favorite people.
The Mother’s Day flowers have begun to falter somewhat yet my glee from being a mom has not.[/vc_column_text][banner300 banner=”5517620b381df”][vc_column_text]I was reminded of this absolute joy when this morning I caught an epic spot from Sean Hannity’s show where Gavin McInnes told feminist Tamara Holder how much happier she would be if she were a mom and wife.
I can’t exactly measure her happiness, nor can anyone but Tamara, but for me, being a mom ranks as my greatest accomplishment and biggest joy-factor.
[/vc_column_text][vc_video title=”Here is the exchange” link=”https://www.youtube.com/embed/xLc4UNt5zIg”][vc_column_text]I know this isn’t the case for every woman.
I recall when I was a newly married wife and then subsequent mother thrust into the great world of mother’s day-outs and play dates. My first marriage and the children’s father was a marine and that life revolved around a strong community of peers in similar life situations. One of my new friends was a mom, wife, professional working on her dissertation. She was of the mindset that she would “have it all!” We had several discussions about limited time and treasure as well as sacrifices that would be unavoidable. I remember that she didn’t buy into that, in fact, she was mostly adamant that there would be nothing that had to give or would get in the way of her personal goals.[/vc_column_text][banner300 banner=”553157113d3ff”][vc_column_text]Now, many years later, I would be curious to know if she maintains that belief.
It is my personal belief that women have been lied to for millennia. The same serpent that influenced Eve to wonder if she could have it all, still whispers to womankind that she can.
And we just can’t.
I’ll never regret that I don’t have a 401K for my retirement or a hefty trust fund to offer my children. I offered them the greatest gift I can muster; me. In order to be the parent that is “there,” certain sacrifices had to be made. I don’t regret that. In fact, it’s my badge of honor.
So Tamara, you might enjoy being a wife and mom, or you might not. Parenthood isn’t for every person. For me and my house, it’s been a glorious ride.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]